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Description - It's Not You by Sara Eckel

When her article "Sometimes, It's Not You" appeared in the New York Times "Modern Love" section, journalist Sara Eckel was floored by the response. The article immediately went viral on Facebook and Twitter, and became the most e-mailed article in the newspaper during its publication week. With It's Not You, she's grown the idea into a book-length work that will resonate with single women the world over.

If you're single but searching, there's no end of explanations, excuses, and criticism you'll hear to explain why you're single. Even the most self-possessed singleton may come to doubt herself.

"You're too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you'll be fine."
"You're too desperate. If men think you need them, they'll run scared."
"You're too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates."
"You have low self-esteem. You can't love someone else until you've learned to love yourself."
"You're too needy. You can't be happy in a relationship until you've learned to be happy on your own."

It's Not You is structured around the many messages that singles, especially single women, get about who they are and who they're supposed to be. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, and interviews with single women, Eckel creates a strong argument for single women to love themselves as they are--no change necessary. By debunking the myths that have kept single women doubting themselves, Eckel encourages readers to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them, as they begin to understand and accept there's no one reason they're single--they just are.
"Why am I still single?"

If you're single and searching, there's no end to other people's explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you haven't found a partner-

"You're too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you'll be fine."
"You're too desperate. If men think you need them, they'll run scared."
"You're too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates."
"You have low self-esteem. You can't love someone else until you've learned to love yourself."
"You're too needy. You can't be happy in a relationship until you've learned to be happy on your own."

Based on one of the most popular Modern Love columns of the last decade, Sara Eckel's It's Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there's no one reason why you're single-you just are.

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